Thursday, July 23, 2009

The Good List

I’ve decided to be the assistant coach of my daughter’s soccer team this fall. My knowledge of the game is limited to which team has possession of the ball and when someone scores. What I bring to the table is four years on the sidelines reliving my cheerleading days, shouting, “Go, Ally!”

Let’s just say, these 11-year-olds will be teaching me a thing or two.

Tonight is the draft. I will attend fully prepared having studied the players like a gambling man examines his hand. My clipboard has the names categorized by ability and position. I am pumped up, my head spinning with plan A, plan B – whatever it takes to amass the best players. We are going to dominate that field, I’m thinking.

I asked Ally to review my picks.

She nodded.

“Mom,” she said, scanning the names, “Don’t pick all the good players.”

“Why?”

“Leave some for the other teams.”

I stared at her blankly.

“Some of the players I want on my team aren’t the best at soccer, but they’re really nice girls.”

The record scratches. In the midst of my plan of attack, my young girl reminds me that greed isn’t good. That sharing the bounty with others is the right thing to do. And more importantly, that judging people on their inner goodness, not necessarily their outer successes, is perhaps the higher road -- the road I’ve been talking a lot about, but not always walking on.

I rearrange my list and Ally gives me the names of the nice girls. And off I go.

7 comments:

~Jamie said...

Out of the mouths of babes!

Rae Ann said...

Wow. Clearly you have done a wonderful job of raising your daughter. Congrats!

Heather Dugan ("Footsteps") said...

Oh, do I like your daughter! I think you're going to have a terrific season.

June Freaking Cleaver said...

Smart, that Ally! One of the great things about watching kids play sports is seeing the "nice" ones become "good". It's always fun to root for the underdog.

Darren King said...

How wonderful for you to hear kindness and empathy expressed from your daughter - something you already knew was part of her character - but times like these we actually witness our children growing up before our eyes. And hats off to you for stepping in to help coach. I can't say I could do that! Have a great seaon!

Jenjen @GottaLoveMom said...

Your such a great mom - your daughter's values are a testament to that!

You'll definitely have fun.
(you'll get more blog-material lol)

I hope you won't bump into some trouble-some soccer moms..

Have fun!

Terry Heath said...

Amazing response and a real testimony to how you've raised your daughter. I bet the season is going well . . . !